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[anotheranon]

Will spare repetitive vent about how I hate armoring.

May delve deeper into 1) my dislike of asking for help 2) trying to take the cheap way out whenever possible and 3) why these are personality flaws I might do well to address, at a future date when I have working weaponry.

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personality "flaws"

[orangesophie.livejournal.com]

Just a warm fuzzy...

Reframing "flaws" into "ways you make decisions that don't serve you as well as they could" could possibly make them easier to deal with.

Also, asking for help is hard for most people - even when you have every reason in the world to do so and people wish that you would. The key for me has always been phrasing my request to make a "no" answer sincerely acceptable.

Example: "Hey Joe, I need some help with my armor, and I heard you were good with Whooziwhazits. Do you have any time soon to answer some questions for me, or is now not a good time? Maybe someday later?"

Even if Joe is a jerk and just hates helping people with Whoziwhazits, you gave him an out complete with a script: "Umm, Sorry lady, it's not a good time. Maybe later."

Making a "No" answer a really ok thing to say can make communications smoother in a lot of arenas.

Just my 2 cents. :)
Hugs!
--Lara

Re: personality "flaws"

[anotheranon.livejournal.com]

I thank you for the words of encouragement. The reason I classify these as "flaws" is because they are clearly maladaptive! But, I do see your point.

Part of my problem with asking for help fixing my weapons is that while I understand help will be freely (sometimes enthusiastically - some people love the challenge of troubleshooting) given, it's colored by my own opinion that armoring is a tedious and irritating chore, and people would much rather fence.

That, and how do I expect to learn if I keep leaning on someone else?

FWIW, I AM getting help. And pricing out the cost of conversion to a sturdier set of fiddly bits so hopefully I won't have to be constantly doing this and asking for help!