I don't get it, except I do

[anotheranon]

I used to think that I didn't read people that well. Couldn't figure out their intentions, motivations, non-verbal subtext. This has caused me all manner of paranoia and caution since childhood.

I'm slowly realizing that I read people better than I thought I did, I just get fed up with what I see.

Emotional reasoning.

Everyone (including me) engages in it to some degree, - I do understand that. What I can't get my head around is the determination of some to cling so fiercely to ideas and things that fly in the face of all evidence to the contrary. Presented with "here are the facts, now let's act upon them", logical progression keeps stumbling on the altogether human but annoying need to have their little biases and moods catered to instead of getting on with it.

It's one of the big reasons I've never tried that hard to move into management (because that seems the only "up" that there is to move into in IT/communications): I see the job of managers as doing a lot of hand-holding and ego massaging, where I just want to be pointed at something and go already.

Why, WHY can't people set down their need to be right/good/big/bad/whatever and do what needs to be done? THIS is what I can't read about people.

Mind, I'm venting with the full knowledge that I do the same shit, though I hope that I'm big enough to admit when I'm wrong and realize that sometimes "like" and "want" don't enter into it.

Comments

[jlsjlsjls.livejournal.com]

Amen. I get more stressed by not accomplishing things at work (and by other people who have no drive to accomplish things at work) than I do when I'm overloaded ... as long as something's getting DONE I'm fine.

Mebbe the three of us should form a company of our own, with the #1 rule being no unnecessary meetings or phone calls. ;p

Re the other bit, about reading people ... I suspect that's one of the personality quirks that gets us introvert-types labeled "shy." I know that I've often been in situations where there's just nobody worth talking to, and I've never seen the point of pretending to find somebody interesting when they're actually making my teeth go numb, just for the sake of being "social" ... why lie to them?. The price we pay just 'cause we instinctively know our finite time on the planet is too valuable to be wasted on the dull and exasperating ...

[anotheranon.livejournal.com]

I know that I've often been in situations where there's just nobody worth talking to, and I've never seen the point of pretending to find somebody interesting when they're actually making my teeth go numb, just for the sake of being "social" ... why lie to them?. The price we pay just 'cause we instinctively know our finite time on the planet is too valuable to be wasted on the dull and exasperating ...

I do kinda get this. For me what staggers me most though is when I find myself in conversation with someone who is dogmatic or worked up about something that I perceive as not being something worth investing with so much drama. Why they can't drop it I cannot figure out.

[semmie17.livejournal.com]

For me what staggers me most though is when I find myself in conversation with someone who is dogmatic or worked up about something that I perceive as not being something worth investing with so much drama. Why they can't drop it I cannot figure out.

That's when I start to laugh at people. Usually in their faces.

. . .

Insensitive? Yes. But also... FUUuuuUUUN.

[jlsjlsjls.livejournal.com]

Because it's all they have? :-(