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on the domestic "glass ceiling"
Aug. 20th, 2006 08:40 pmHmm...
Ran across this discussion of a new book, Get To Work: A Manifesto for Women of the World. While I'm not keen on the term "sexual bargaining" (what the author advocates is that women need to conciously negotiate domestic duties with their partners, a discussion which is less about sex than it is about housework), I do think that it's a concept whose time has come - so much is assumed about who does the housework and whose career matters more in (straight) relationships that if you have any ambitions to do something different (in this case, if you're a woman who wants a high powered career), you really do need to spell it out.
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Not sure how I wanted to conclude this except to say that it's really hard to see the influence of "the script" when you're in it, and even harder to buck trends even when you know they're damaging. Please read the linked articles, because it outlines the arguments far, far better than I've done here (I HATE it when I'm trying to think aloud and can't muster the words I want to convey my ideas. But that's another post). I don't have an answer becase the world isn't "one size fits all", but I think it's always time to question norms that aren't to our benefit.
Ran across this discussion of a new book, Get To Work: A Manifesto for Women of the World. While I'm not keen on the term "sexual bargaining" (what the author advocates is that women need to conciously negotiate domestic duties with their partners, a discussion which is less about sex than it is about housework), I do think that it's a concept whose time has come - so much is assumed about who does the housework and whose career matters more in (straight) relationships that if you have any ambitions to do something different (in this case, if you're a woman who wants a high powered career), you really do need to spell it out.
( snipped for brevity )
Not sure how I wanted to conclude this except to say that it's really hard to see the influence of "the script" when you're in it, and even harder to buck trends even when you know they're damaging. Please read the linked articles, because it outlines the arguments far, far better than I've done here (I HATE it when I'm trying to think aloud and can't muster the words I want to convey my ideas. But that's another post). I don't have an answer becase the world isn't "one size fits all", but I think it's always time to question norms that aren't to our benefit.
